Not good enough/ story time

Has someone ever told you you are not good enough? Well i have been a victim too. I have given my best in a lot of things only for the person to tell me i was not good enough. Let me share my story and my journey to overcoming this. I finished my degree last year (2018) and just like everyone else does i looked for an internship.

I dedicated my whole day looking for an internship i used to walk everyday dropping my CV to every company i came across. Job hunting personally is a night mare. Sometimes i could go to a company and beg to see the human resource but all i was told is that i needed an appointment. Times were tough. I did this for two weeks then finally i got my first internship.

I was super excited. I went for the interview and i was to start working the next Monday. Like any other jobs their are advantages and disadvantages. Let me say that the advantage of being an intern in this job was that i was able to gain skills and friends too. The disadvantage is that i was to cater for my fare and lunch. An opportunity came in the department i was working and the manager told me that i was not good enough for that job. This made me cry so much i could not understand why this happened to me.

For some time i hated formal employment and I decided to try out something new and i ventured in to freelancing i look back and that was the best decision i have ever made.

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Relationship expectations verses reality.

When someone is in a relationship the expectations are too high. I listen to my friends expectations and am like really do such men exist. The picture or dreams one has on his or her mind about their future partners can be so funny. Until one is in an actually relationship the expectations verses reality are so different. Its like two different worlds.

Expectation 1

We all think about relationships and one of my expectations is breakfast in bed.

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Reality 1

He is probably going to be the last person to wake up. The surprise will be the dirty dishes.

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Expectation 2

My bae will cuddle me to sleep . I expect us to stay this way till morning

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Reality 2

You will all sleep in different sides of the bed.

Expectation 3

Kissing in the rain .

Reality 3

When it rains couples are always in a hurry we shall kiss inside.

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Expectation 4

I am not the jealous and crazy type. I tell myself this every time.

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Reality 4

How she reacts when she sees you text another lady.

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Most embarrassing high-school experience. Story Time

Today am going to be doing something different. Its story time. If you have not followed my blog please do so. If you like this blog comment down below and i might consider weekly story times.

When i was in high school we used to wake up so early. By 3:50 am i was always up and by 4: 20 we were actually in class. Morning preps took around 1 hr 30 minutes. The day would end at 10 pm. YOH! Life was hard i was in a boarding school. Whether it was a 10 minutes break i would always sleeping and, during lunch time i was always sleeping. I was sleeping even when the teacher was busy teaching. I wasn’t the kind of student to try not to sleep or rather to hold it in. When i was sleepy i would literally dose-off on the desk.

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I used to dose in dorm and when the teacher came i would jump out of the door near the nearest window or run to the toilet.

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So on this particular day i overslept. THE DEVIL IS A LIAR. It was actually on a Monday. The dorms were not locked . The teacher came in checking if their were students that were sleeping and my bed was opposite the door. I open my eyes and the first thing i see is the teachers face. She told me to give her my name and my parents name and where they work then go to class.

After morning preps we had breakfast then assembly. During the announcement part the teacher on duty said called my name like this” Tan the daughter of Tim working in ABC company was caught sleeping in the dorm during morning preps” I was so embarrassed and luckily the head master was not in on that day. Who know what would have happened to me.

Dealing with finances

I have been thinking about this a lot off-late and i would like to know how to you guys manage your money. I am not the best in financial management but i try. Honestly, I was a spendthrift. I spent most of my money on food and clothes. I was always on Boohoo looking at whats trending. I would shop so much that i could not account for my money.

However this days i always make sure i budget my money. I do this a week before i get paid. My house rent and food bill always come top on my list of expenses and off-course i have to pay monthly for my WIFI. I follow my budget keenly to avoid purchasing unnecessary stuffs this has really helped me a lot.

I always give 10% of my salary as tithe then save 30% . I have also been using a couple of apps to help track my spending behavior. This has helped me a lot. I have seen a huge difference when i budget my money. I tell my money where it should go. If you have some tips share with your sister. Let me know what you think dear.

Stepping out of your comfort zone.

Hey, I hope you are doing okay and winning in everything you do be it work, school and family. Today i will talk about stepping out of your comfort zone. In the begging of the year i did what almost everyone does. I wrote down my 2019 goals. Lets just be honest we all have those last year goals that we still forward them to the next year and then the next year.

I have always wanted to start a blog and have my own platform where i can share my thoughts and interact with other but i have been post ponding this for the longest time. This year i told myself we are going to do thing differently. NO PROCRASTINATION.

I am not where i want to be yet but this year i decided to step out of my comfort zone. This are some of the tips that have helped me so far

  1. I set my goals and made a commitment to myself.
  2. I gave myself motivation. I believed in myself. I kept speaking positively about myself.
  3. I took small gradual steps. I know some people discourage others from starting a free word press blog. The most important thing is START with time you will upgrade.
  4. Move yourself with urgency. Start working on the goals immediately.

I hope this encourages someone. Some people will tell you. You are not good enough but do not give up. Go for it prove them wrong. I hope this blog encourages someone who maybe want to start a you tube channel or you have always wanted to do something but you are afraid to step out of your comfort zone . In whatever you want to do just know you can succeed you just have to put your mind into it.

What are your insecurities about your body?

Hey, Welcome to today’s blog. Thank you for 17 Subscribers this really means so much to me and I am grateful. Today I want to talk about insecurities. Those body parts people make negative comments about or those body parts that you look in the mirror and say I wish I was a lit bit slim then I would look cute. I was recently watching a show and the models were to look at the mirror and say what they did not like about themselves this inspired me to write this blog.

I want to share my experience , so throughout my life, I have always been slim. Tried every medicine to improve my appetite but it just did not work. I also have a baby face. One can easily mistake me for a high school kid. I took this part positively. However, the slim part really made me so insecure about myself. After high school, I was 38 kg. I remember at some point I had a low blood pressure this really stressed me out I forced myself to it.

I want to share a Road map to overcoming insecurities. I have learned to accept myself the way I am and embrace my insecurities. I keep telling myself probably every day you do not need to seek other people’s approval you are BEAUTIFUL. Lastly, do not compare yourself with anyone. Remember everyone is unique in their own way. Comparison will only lower your self-esteem.

Hey, Welcome to today’s blog. Thank you for 17 Subscribers this really means so much to me and I am grateful. Today I want to talk about insecurities. Those body parts people make negative comments about or those body parts that you look in the mirror and say I wish I was a lit bit slim then I would look cute. I was recently watching a show and the models were to look at the mirror and say what they did not like about themselves this inspired me to write this blog.

I want to share my experience , so throughout my life, I have always been slim. Tried every medicine to improve my appetite but it just did not work. I also have a baby face. One can easily mistake me for a high school kid. I took this part positively. However, the slim part really made me so insecure about myself. After high school, I was 38 kg. I remember at some point I had a low blood pressure this really stressed me out I forced myself to it.

I want to share a Road map to overcoming insecurities. I have learned to accept myself the way I am and embrace my insecurities. I keep telling myself probably every day you do not need to seek other people’s approval you are BEAUTIFUL. Lastly, do not compare yourself with anyone. Remember everyone is unique in their own way. Comparison will only lower your self-esteem.

Dealing with a breakup

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I have had people ask me this question a lot. My boyfriend just broke up with me? I have known him for the past three years. Will i be able to move on? I don’t know how to cope with this. Well i am here to give you some tips on how to deal with breakups. I have been there and i know the pain of loosing someone especially when you had a lot of expectations.

Here are my tips . They have really worked out for me.

  1. Talk to a friend

Ensure that you talk to a friend about it. Talking really helps. This means you are slowly coming into terms with the breakup.

2. Don’t talk to your ex

Yeah! i know this is the hardest part. I personally don’t talk to my ex immediately we break up. We can become friends later when i heal. What i do is block them on all social media platforms. Every time i miss them i just remember why we broke up and this has kept me moving

3. Keep yourself busy

Find something to do. This will help you to keep moving. Make sure you have a schedule of what you are supposed to do everyday. Don’t just sit there feeling sorry for yourself move past that.

4. Embrace the people that love you.

My brother told me this and it works. Do not just dwell in the pain. Open your eyes and see the love from friends and family.

5. Forgive

Do not seek to revenge. Learn to forgive them. Forgiving might seem heard but do it for the sake of your inner peace.

6. Avoid rebounds

I have a blog post talking about rebounds. One of the reason why people move on too first is because they are afraid to be alone. Rebounds can never be solutions to getting over a break up.

7. Focus on yourself

Focus on your self growth. Love yourself enough to let go. Taking yourself out for a dinner or a cup of tea can really help you feel better.

8. Start a fresh

let go the past be it good or bad and start a new chapter in your life. Don’t look back.

Conclusion

Even after the breakup believe that true love exist. Just because it never worked out the way you expect doesn’t mean that true love does not exist. Do not lose the love inside you just because of your ex. Most importantly love yourself in the process.