Most of the articles talk about eliminating toxic people in your life. In reality, this advice helps. We only live once, therefore, subjecting ourselves to toxicity can be very harmful. It is not enough to remove the toxic people in our lives. We also need to be true to ourselves concerning our own toxic tendencies. It is important to understand your toxic behaviors and believe that it is possible to change those behaviors.
Some of the toxic behaviors can include selfishness, being controlling, abusive, and manipulative behavior.
Sometimes it is not what you say but how you say it. Sometimes it is your attitude that is toxic or how you treat other people. Toxicity is not always obvious; it is how you make other people feel. It is difficult to admit when you are the problem. It is hard to admit that you get more out of a relationship than you give. One of the biggest signs of maturity is self-realization. Instead of saying what other ways other people offended, you learn to admit the mistakes that you did.
Most of the time, you will ask someone about their ex, and all they see is what they did that made the relationship not to work. Sometimes we get defensive instead of owning up to our mistakes and apologizing. It is important to note that just because you are not toxic to your friends and spouse does not mean that you are not toxic to your co-workers. One important lesson that I have learned is that we need to admit our toxic traits and mistakes. We also need to work on changing our mindset.