Dealing with finances

I have been thinking about this a lot off-late and i would like to know how to you guys manage your money. I am not the best in financial management but i try. Honestly, I was a spendthrift. I spent most of my money on food and clothes. I was always on Boohoo looking at whats trending. I would shop so much that i could not account for my money.

However this days i always make sure i budget my money. I do this a week before i get paid. My house rent and food bill always come top on my list of expenses and off-course i have to pay monthly for my WIFI. I follow my budget keenly to avoid purchasing unnecessary stuffs this has really helped me a lot.

I always give 10% of my salary as tithe then save 30% . I have also been using a couple of apps to help track my spending behavior. This has helped me a lot. I have seen a huge difference when i budget my money. I tell my money where it should go. If you have some tips share with your sister. Let me know what you think dear.

Stepping out of your comfort zone.

Hey, I hope you are doing okay and winning in everything you do be it work, school and family. Today i will talk about stepping out of your comfort zone. In the begging of the year i did what almost everyone does. I wrote down my 2019 goals. Lets just be honest we all have those last year goals that we still forward them to the next year and then the next year.

I have always wanted to start a blog and have my own platform where i can share my thoughts and interact with other but i have been post ponding this for the longest time. This year i told myself we are going to do thing differently. NO PROCRASTINATION.

I am not where i want to be yet but this year i decided to step out of my comfort zone. This are some of the tips that have helped me so far

  1. I set my goals and made a commitment to myself.
  2. I gave myself motivation. I believed in myself. I kept speaking positively about myself.
  3. I took small gradual steps. I know some people discourage others from starting a free word press blog. The most important thing is START with time you will upgrade.
  4. Move yourself with urgency. Start working on the goals immediately.

I hope this encourages someone. Some people will tell you. You are not good enough but do not give up. Go for it prove them wrong. I hope this blog encourages someone who maybe want to start a you tube channel or you have always wanted to do something but you are afraid to step out of your comfort zone . In whatever you want to do just know you can succeed you just have to put your mind into it.

What are your insecurities about your body?

Hey, Welcome to today’s blog. Thank you for 17 Subscribers this really means so much to me and I am grateful. Today I want to talk about insecurities. Those body parts people make negative comments about or those body parts that you look in the mirror and say I wish I was a lit bit slim then I would look cute. I was recently watching a show and the models were to look at the mirror and say what they did not like about themselves this inspired me to write this blog.

I want to share my experience , so throughout my life, I have always been slim. Tried every medicine to improve my appetite but it just did not work. I also have a baby face. One can easily mistake me for a high school kid. I took this part positively. However, the slim part really made me so insecure about myself. After high school, I was 38 kg. I remember at some point I had a low blood pressure this really stressed me out I forced myself to it.

I want to share a Road map to overcoming insecurities. I have learned to accept myself the way I am and embrace my insecurities. I keep telling myself probably every day you do not need to seek other people’s approval you are BEAUTIFUL. Lastly, do not compare yourself with anyone. Remember everyone is unique in their own way. Comparison will only lower your self-esteem.

Hey, Welcome to today’s blog. Thank you for 17 Subscribers this really means so much to me and I am grateful. Today I want to talk about insecurities. Those body parts people make negative comments about or those body parts that you look in the mirror and say I wish I was a lit bit slim then I would look cute. I was recently watching a show and the models were to look at the mirror and say what they did not like about themselves this inspired me to write this blog.

I want to share my experience , so throughout my life, I have always been slim. Tried every medicine to improve my appetite but it just did not work. I also have a baby face. One can easily mistake me for a high school kid. I took this part positively. However, the slim part really made me so insecure about myself. After high school, I was 38 kg. I remember at some point I had a low blood pressure this really stressed me out I forced myself to it.

I want to share a Road map to overcoming insecurities. I have learned to accept myself the way I am and embrace my insecurities. I keep telling myself probably every day you do not need to seek other people’s approval you are BEAUTIFUL. Lastly, do not compare yourself with anyone. Remember everyone is unique in their own way. Comparison will only lower your self-esteem.

Dealing with a breakup

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I have had people ask me this question a lot. My boyfriend just broke up with me? I have known him for the past three years. Will i be able to move on? I don’t know how to cope with this. Well i am here to give you some tips on how to deal with breakups. I have been there and i know the pain of loosing someone especially when you had a lot of expectations.

Here are my tips . They have really worked out for me.

  1. Talk to a friend

Ensure that you talk to a friend about it. Talking really helps. This means you are slowly coming into terms with the breakup.

2. Don’t talk to your ex

Yeah! i know this is the hardest part. I personally don’t talk to my ex immediately we break up. We can become friends later when i heal. What i do is block them on all social media platforms. Every time i miss them i just remember why we broke up and this has kept me moving

3. Keep yourself busy

Find something to do. This will help you to keep moving. Make sure you have a schedule of what you are supposed to do everyday. Don’t just sit there feeling sorry for yourself move past that.

4. Embrace the people that love you.

My brother told me this and it works. Do not just dwell in the pain. Open your eyes and see the love from friends and family.

5. Forgive

Do not seek to revenge. Learn to forgive them. Forgiving might seem heard but do it for the sake of your inner peace.

6. Avoid rebounds

I have a blog post talking about rebounds. One of the reason why people move on too first is because they are afraid to be alone. Rebounds can never be solutions to getting over a break up.

7. Focus on yourself

Focus on your self growth. Love yourself enough to let go. Taking yourself out for a dinner or a cup of tea can really help you feel better.

8. Start a fresh

let go the past be it good or bad and start a new chapter in your life. Don’t look back.

Conclusion

Even after the breakup believe that true love exist. Just because it never worked out the way you expect doesn’t mean that true love does not exist. Do not lose the love inside you just because of your ex. Most importantly love yourself in the process.

Outgrowing Friends

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Is there any such thing as outgrowing friends? when i was younger i never though this was true. I thought if you are someones friends its a forever thing. No one says good bye.

My experience

When i joined college i made a lot of friends. We talked a lot. It was an awesome experience. Then i graduated and left school and things have changed since then we no longer talk. This does not mean we are not in good terms. I think when you are in school all of you have a common goal. Thats why interacting becomes easier. When the goal is achieved its time to move on.

Everyone decides the path they are going to take in life some get employed, other decide to continue with their education and as for me i decided to become a freelancer.

I wanted to share some of the signs you’re outgrowing friends

  1. Busy

When both of you are too busy trying to make ends meet that you don’t create time for one another. Friendships require time and effort.

2. The only thing you have in common is the past

When you have a friend and the only thing that you can discuss about is the past. For example college life. At this point you run out of things to talk about.

3. Crave for new friends

Sometimes when you feel their is no bond that connect you to your old friends. You feel the need to look for new friends. People you can talk to and they can understand you.

4. When you really do not care.

Days go by and no one bothers to call the other person and know how they are fairing on. No one makes an effort to even plan how you are going to meet.

Conclusion

It can be frustrating at time to loose friends. It is absolutely normal to lose friend. I personally find myself more attached to my childhood friends. We constantly talk and meet.

Life happens

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I have been going through a lot lately just trying to figure out what my purpose is. I took a break from posting everyday but am back. When i started this blog my main aim was to share my happy and my struggling moments. I graduated last year around November. I decided i am going to take a different path.

The society till to date expects you to get done with college and get a white collar job. I had a different opinion on this i have always wanted to be a work at home mum. Sometimes it becomes a bit challenging but you still got to keep moving. I love blogging. I do it as a hobbie.

I am back again with the consistency game. I just felt the need to explain what has been going on. One thing i have learnt over the past one week. You got to move past the frustrations and disappointments. If you have no problems then that means you are not growing.

The struggle is real.

AM STRUGGLING.

When i wake up the first thing i check is social media. I go to my instagram page just to see what is currently trending like a few photos. I will not lie i spend so much time watching You tube video. I am so embarrassed to say this but their was a time i could spend more than 18 hours in a day going through social media.

So i decided to come up with a strategy to reduce the time i spend on social media this has really worked out for me personally. Every night i write a schedule on what i will do the next day especially because i am a freelancer. I allocate social media two hours everyday. I find this effective because am able to prepare myself psychologically. I take a book and read every night before i sleep.

I have been doing this for the past one month and this has been my savior in terms of time management. I can now account for my day. I promised myself that if i did this constantly for three months am going to reward myself with a pair of shoe. I am here to win this.

I just wanted to blog about this if you have an tips kindly comment down below and help a sister.

How money ruins relationships?

Money is the source of all evil. Today am going to be talking about why money is important in a relationship? How to deal with money in a relationship? How money can ruin your relationship? How to solve money problems in relationships and marriage?

Did you know that Money is the number one issue why couples fight and get divorced. Ways in which money can ruin relationship may include having a separate bank. Marriage is a partnership as a couple you need to keep your money together and deal with it as a whole this will reduce arguments.

Having different lifestyles may affect marriages and relationships. This is whereby all the other partner wants is expensive items some of which are not affordable. Your lifestyle should match your actual income. You can resolve this by understanding and agreeing with each other on alternative brands.

Salary difference might be a big issue in relationships. One partner may feel as thou they are contributing too much as compared to the other person. You should treat the money as ours and not mine. By doing this their will be less arguments and fights and a happy marriage.

Being unfaithful intern of finances can hugely affect marriage. For example opening a separate bank account without your partners knowledge. However, you can resolve this by being honest and open to each other about secret accounts.

Having huge financial expectation from your spouse can really affect your relationship. This financial expectations may include buying a house and going for vacations. Have low expectations from your spouse. Live and current moment. Its okay to have financial goals.

In conclusion the best way to solve money problems is to treat money as “ours” and not “mine”. Be open and honest to your partner about finances. Remember marriage is a partnership.

20 Things i wish i knew before i was 20.

Today am going to talk about twenty things i wish i knew before i was twenty years old. Comment down below on what you wish you knew before you were twenty. Twenties are one of the tricky age in a persons life. The pressure and expectations from the society are high in terms of your career and relationship.

  1. I wish i knew that not all friends will last forever. You can outgrow some friend and its ok. Be willing to let go toxic relationships.
  2. Know your worth and do not let people disrespect you. love yourself more and be strong enough to let go.
  3. Ensure you have a strategy in place to save money. This money can be for emergency purposes or for investment.
  4. Make sure you eat healthy and exercise this will reduces cases like heart diseases.
  5. You will not prosper in everything but do not be afraid to try. Remember the greatest risk is not risking anything.
  6. Be different. People who succeed in life do things differently. Do not aspire to be like others. Be the best version of yourself.
  7. Spend your time wisely. We all have 24 hours in a day but what you do with the 24 will either make you successful or poor.
  8. Do not make excuses or procrastinate activities. Ensure you have a schedule everyday and when you are done with a task ensure you tick it. This will help you account for your time and make no excuse.
  9. Self discipline is very important. If you want to be successful ensure you are disciple if you are supposed to start a project in the morning. Wake up early and start working on it.
  10. Do everything with all your heart as thou you are doing it for the Lord and not for men.
  11. Have a long term and short term goal. Short term goal may be for example i want to have to blog post up everyday.
  12. Be happy always and grateful for every thing. Have fun life is short.
  13. The world can be cruel at time but be nice and kind always. Smile more you never know whose day you will light up.
  14. Communicate with your parents often. They are the only people who sincerely want the best for you.
  15. Travel and enjoy life. Go for vacation once in a while.
  16. If you want something go for it. If you want to start a Youtube channel start do not wait. If you want to be a blogger start now.
  17. Read books about self improvement it can be about financial management.
  18. Do not quit. Continue moving. If you really want something go for it.
  19. Be a reflection of what you want be it character wise.
  20. Learn to completely let go you ex. This could affect your future relationships so let go. If they are not meant for you do not force things you may end up getting hurt in the process.

Understanding your partner love language can save your marriage.

Hey i hope you are doing FINE and winning in everything be it school, relationships and life in general. Today i want us to talk about love language . The different types of love language. Comment down below your love language.

We all express love differences and understanding this differences can really save marriages and relationships. Their are five ways people understand and speak emotional love. To save your marriage or relationship it is important to know your partner or spouse love language. This will reduce arguments since one is able to understand the other persons feelings.

Word of affirmation is one of the love language . It involves the use of appreciative word. Everyone is different some people feel more loved when someone appreciates their efforts. Using words like thank you for taking the garbage out make them feel special.

Gift is another way of expressing love towards your spouse. This may include simple gifts like chocolate. Have you ever been gifted something and you can’t stop thinking how special you are to your significant other.

Act of service is whereby you do something for your partner and they feel loved and appreciated. This services may include cooking a meal, washing the dishes and washing clothes . Physical touch is where you feel most loved when your better half hugs or touches you.

Having time for your significant other is also a way to communicate your love. This can be as simple as watching the television together. Walking together. Listening to your partner when they speak.

In conclusion it is so important to know or be aware of your partners love language. This may save relationships and marriage since you are able to understand and express love to your spouse.

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