I have had people ask me this question a lot. My boyfriend just broke up with me? I have known him for the past three years. Will i be able to move on? I don’t know how to cope with this. Well i am here to give you some tips on how to deal with breakups. I have been there and i know the pain of loosing someone especially when you had a lot of expectations.
Here are my tips . They have really worked out for me.
- Talk to a friend
Ensure that you talk to a friend about it. Talking really helps. This means you are slowly coming into terms with the breakup.
2. Don’t talk to your ex
Yeah! i know this is the hardest part. I personally don’t talk to my ex immediately we break up. We can become friends later when i heal. What i do is block them on all social media platforms. Every time i miss them i just remember why we broke up and this has kept me moving
3. Keep yourself busy
Find something to do. This will help you to keep moving. Make sure you have a schedule of what you are supposed to do everyday. Don’t just sit there feeling sorry for yourself move past that.
4. Embrace the people that love you.
My brother told me this and it works. Do not just dwell in the pain. Open your eyes and see the love from friends and family.
Do not seek to revenge. Learn to forgive them. Forgiving might seem heard but do it for the sake of your inner peace.
6. Avoid rebounds
I have a blog post talking about rebounds. One of the reason why people move on too first is because they are afraid to be alone. Rebounds can never be solutions to getting over a break up.
7. Focus on yourself
Focus on your self growth. Love yourself enough to let go. Taking yourself out for a dinner or a cup of tea can really help you feel better.
8. Start a fresh
let go the past be it good or bad and start a new chapter in your life. Don’t look back.
Even after the breakup believe that true love exist. Just because it never worked out the way you expect doesn’t mean that true love does not exist. Do not lose the love inside you just because of your ex. Most importantly love yourself in the process.